What enables you to move through life in ways that are fulfilling and satisfying?
If you can answer these questions, with 5 – 10 different answers then you could consider yourself to be “resourced”.
What does “resourced” mean? It has its origins in somatic therapy and is a tool used to help you really feel at home in your own body, even when you are facing difficult circumstances or are a newbie in town; the things, people, places, or activities that you count on to make you feel good generally but also for when the going gets tough.
You can draw on these strengths in threatening circumstances, whether these are internal such as pathogens or toxicity or external, such as accidents or emotional shock. Without enough “resources”, a person’s ability to function successfully in demanding situations becomes inadequate.
Too often, I find clients are unaware of their strengths, resources; things that make you feel good and why. Here are 5 steps to start building a complement of resources, that you can use to be emotionally resilient
Notice the space you occupy. Each morning pat yourself down. Start with one hand, patting or firmly stroking the outside, then the inside of your other arm, swap hands and repeat on the other side. Then pat yourself down your torso, front and back. Next pat yourself over your hips, down the outsides of your legs and up the insides, down the front and back. Repeat two more times. Then stand and become aware of the space around you. Carry that awareness of the space you occupy throughout the day. With practise, you will become more alert and switched on to the things around you.
Spend time each day barefoot. Just 5-10 mins spent barefoot on soil, grass or sand every day helps people to be in their bodies. After all, you are much more than just a brain and should fully occupy all of your body. Re-connection with the Earth’s electrons has been found to promote intriguing physiological changes and subjective reports of well-being.  You can combine this with the above exercise if you access to a garden or any patch of earth.
Become aware. Mindfulness is a buzz word in business these days. It is no longer a new age phenomenon. It means being aware of yourself, your surroundings, of others, at this precise moment in time, non-judgementally. Go on, take 30 seconds to notice the sights, smells, sounds, textures, or flavours currently present in your bubble. Do this as often as you can, every day. Better still, ask yourself ‘in spite of everything that’s going on for me at present, what tells me I’m OK, right now?’
And breathe…Use this simple exercise to calm an overworked mind and the nervous system. By stimulating your vagus nerve, which runs from your brain down to your diaphragm, you can turn down your fight/flight response and turn up your rest, relax, digest response. It physically changes your stress response in seconds. Here’s what you do: Inhale for a count of four (for starters) and exhale for a count of eight. Always make sure your out-breath is longer than the in-breath (lengthen or shorten the in-breath to suit you, so long as the out-breath is always much longer than the in). Do this daily, building up from one minute and note the change is has on your mood.
Make a list of what makes you smile from the heart. Actually write it down, either on old fashioned paper or on your phone. These are the things, people, places, objects, pets that re-source you. Things that support you at a core level. For now, just start to become aware of how these things make you feel when you think of them.
This is just the start of becoming aware of what external strengths you have to call upon in times of need.
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