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How to know you need to come home to yourself?

Even as a professional craniosacral therapist, I can find myself “less composed” as a work colleague of mine remarked today.

It’s what you might expect given the curve ball life delivered me eight weeks ago, where I suddenly found myself in a hospital on the other side of the world attending to my daughter who had been literally felled by a rogue tree in a Costa Rican forest – So maybe I should give myself a break.  May be we all should give ourselves a break.

Getting into nature allows you to soften, widen, deepen.

My training has taught me to acknowledge the indicators that mean it’s time to log off, get into nature or start up a qigong practice – just some of my resources.

I, like all of us, get the signs that announce I should explore the potential for slowing down, to put the brakes on my own stress cascade.

Coming home to yourself is a negotiation with the self and the first sign starts with becoming aware of not being aware. Does that make sense?

Often beginning with observing that I am no longer as aware of my body parts, I then feel some kind of physical discomfort, and in time, having engaged with my resources – off-line time, nature or qigong, I sense the relief in coming home to myself. Body parts come back on line, I am able to widen and deepen and take up more space.

What are some of the warning signs of needing to come home to yourself? Do mine strike a cord?

  • Your eyes constantly dart about – unable to meet other’s gaze, you find it hard to self-regulate.• You are unable to focus or concentrate.

    • You can’t stop checking your phone, social media or gaming for hours on end (The latter is not my thing – but is it yours?).

    • You are aware that you can’t actually feel some of your body. There is numbness to your physicality as well as to the outside world.

    • You torment yourself with overwork, as if a soulless robot.

    • Your muscles are permanently tense, like stone, harbouring an angry or frightened inner child who feels unseen.

    • Your breath is shallow, quicker than normal in the upper chest.

    • Your eyes feel dry or tense – maybe your pupils are huge too.

    • There’s a sense of urgency in all you do – Your speech is rushed, you move about town at a rapid rate, your pulse is elevated.

    • You feel as if something is clamped to your face or head, yet you appear quite pale and drawn.

    • You hit the comfort food, grabbing as you go, and it sits like a stone, undigested.

    • You are ashamed or disgusted at what you do in order to feel something at all.

    • Your body doesn’t feel your own – as if you only exist in your head.

    • There’s a tenuous sense of systematic constriction – an inability to take up all the space that is yours.

    • You lose the ability to feel compassion or appreciation. Cynicism abounds.

So what are some of the tools to use to turn that around? Do they exist?

This PDF of 10 tips is a good start. It may be that you need more guidance than that.  If so, reach out and arrange for a time to chat:

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You deserve to have the tools at your fingertips so that you can be the best you for yourself and your loved ones.

Shirley